How To Feel In Control

“I feel like I'm not in control of my life. I’m always tired at the end of the day. Maybe I’m not getting enough sleep....but I regularly get 8 hours. I don’t know. Being an adult sucks—there’s always too much to do!”

Sound familiar?

I’ve been there. You pause one day and think, “Where did the time go? It was just March and now it’s November!” There will always be more to do than we are capable of doing as individuals. And unless we take control of our decisions and guard our time and interests, we will always feel rushed and frantic and stressed.

These are symptoms of decision fatigue or ego depletion—essentially, the technical terms for “I make too many decisions on a daily basis and don’t have the energy to do it.” (Note: if you’re feeling tired, lethargic, and/or apathetic ALL the time, then you may want to see a doctor.)

While there the articles linked above have some great insights and tips, here are our top three:

Know Thyself

Have you truly figured out how you, as a person, need to operate in order to have balance (i.e. decent energy levels and stable emotions)? If not, you may want to take the time to do that. Things like understanding your Ikigai can go a long way toward this. A quick internet search can turn up tons of resources out there, like this one from Psych Central, that provide some basis for you to get started.